mother daughter relationship – Laura Fahrenthold – Author

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September 26, 2014

You Call This a Job?

Sometimes a girl just has to pamper herself. And why not? I had just returned from seven weeks of traveling around the country in a 21 foot RV with three teenager girls and a dog that we rescued off an Indian reservation in Arizona to gather material for my upcoming book. […]
October 2, 2014

My Dog Has a Better Love Life Than I Do

I recognized the expression on the vet’s face when he called me into the office. I’d seen it before, the “I am now going to turn off my emotions look” in order to tell this woman something really, really bad that is going to make her cry hard and a […]
October 3, 2014

I Saw My Husband at His Funeral

The first time I saw my husband after he died was at his funeral. When it was my turn to enter the church, all 900 pairs of eyes on the widow, the Reverend handed me a black box and gave me a look that said, “Ready, set, go.”   Apparently […]
October 12, 2014

Weird Ways to Honor Your Loved One’s Ashes

The nice thing about Mark-in-a-Box is that he could go anywhere, anytime. In fact, we were part of a growing trend. In 2010, an estimated 38.15% of America’s deceased were cremated, according to the National Funeral Directors Association. Not surprisingly, therefore, the practice of scattering cremains in unusual, non-traditional (and […]
October 20, 2014

Breaking News! 15-Year-Old Kisses Mom!

My daughter actually let me kiss her forehead and hold her in my arms Sunday morning. What’s more, real words spoken in the English language were actually exchanged between said 15-year-old and me as we sipped hot tea together on the back deck.   I did the math: Nell said close […]
October 22, 2014

AA for Dead People

Groucho Marx put it best in saying he didn’t care to belong to any club that would have him as a member. I felt the exact opposite when I was approached this spring to be on the board of the Bereavement Center of Westchester. It has been an absolute honor to serve […]
October 28, 2014

I Had the Most Romantic Date Last Weekend…

I had the most romantic date last weekend…   Even though it was the first time we ever met, it felt like I had reunited with a long-lost friend. Perhaps he had gone to war or moved away for business or something. All I know is he felt gone, but […]
November 1, 2014

Forgive Me God, For I…

Forgive Me God, For I … Hate Farmers Markets. There, I said it.  I can count the number of times I’ve been to a farmers market on one hand, even though our adorable little Hudson River village holds a really great one every Saturday and everyone goes. It’s the place […]
November 12, 2014

Please Call Me An Only Parent, Not a Single Mom

As I straddle the role of being both mother and father, disciplinarian and softie, I learn that we are still a family despite ourselves. My friends call me Mr. Laura, although the politically correct term for a widow is what I call being an only parent.   You see, single […]
November 21, 2014

I Threw My Husband’s Sheets in the Garbage Today

Early on, everything reminded me of Mark because I needed everything to remind me of my late husband. Touch, move, or clean something that he touched or moved (he rarely cleaned) and I could feel my muscles tighten as I asked to please not take his coat off the chair […]
December 10, 2014

My Friend David Won’t Die!

You can’t die from a broken heart, meaning it may feel as though the pain will never go away, but eventually, it does.   This is what I told a despondent friend who recently learned his boyfriend had been cheating on him with his best friend’s brother. How quaint…   As David sat crying […]
December 15, 2014

I Fired My Kids Last Week! But Look At My Angel Now!

  It’s said that the sun will always come out tomorrow unless you live at our house. Then every morning is greeted in practically the same way: with teenage venom.   Even if I hired a harpist to play golden sunshiny music to lull them awake; a butler to deliver beautiful sunflowers, […]
December 19, 2014

The Kardashians Can Kiss My A!

  To know thyself well is to understand that doing the same thing over and over again while expecting different results is idiotic. That’s why New Year’s resolutions typically don’t stick and we why we find ourselves back where we started. It’s part of the human condition called life.   […]
December 20, 2014

I Slept With My Dead Husband Last Night

  Every time Mark was late, I imagined my husband riding dead on the train, slumped in the seat while commuters pushed past his limp legs until a conductor noticed he hadn’t moved. The police wouldn’t have to say a word as they stood on my doorstep, looking down at their […]
January 3, 2015

Goodbye My Dear Beautiful Sister Friend Connie…

The girls and I normally skip town during the holidays to avoid all the happy families with their tutored children, Pottery Barn houses and organic free range turkey dinners. What’s worse is that everyone’s experience is served up ‘a la Facebook where we all get front row seats to each […]