Note to Daughters Put Under Their Pillows This Morning:

  1. Look out the window and always say good morning to the world.
  2. Breakfast is the most important meal of the day.
  3. Be happy for what you have, don’t cry for what you want.
  4. Walk the dog.
  5. Don’t define yourself by others’ judgments of you.
  6. Be nice to a kid who gets picked on in school.
  7. Don’t be a gossip.
  8. Uneducated people talk about people. Educated people talk about things.
  9. Protect your good reputation.
  10. Try harder than you think is necessary in everything that you do.
  11. Sit with all different kids in the lunchroom, not at the same table with the same people all the time.
  12. If you are not at least five minutes early to class, then you are late.
  13. Don’t worry about who is doing what. Live your own life.
  14. Mind your own business.
  15. Always be truthful, honest and kind.
  16. It’s ok to say no. It builds character.
  17. Look at the bright side of life. There are always things you can make yourself feel badly about.
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  19. Be proud of yourself. You have accomplished more than most adults even at your young ages.
  20. Keep your promises.
  21. Don’t cancel plans on someone even if something better comes along.
  22. Don’t give up on anything unless it is hurting you. Then walk away from it.
  23. Exercise your body every day.
  24. Try to do something that you think is too hard for you every single day.
  25. Make a list of everything you love and appreciate.
  26. Never, ever lie. It only devalues your self-esteem.
  27. Hold your head high.
  28. Be ladylike.
  29. Remember our family motto: You need to be able to pee in the woods and dine with the queen.
  30. Don’t let other kids make you feel badly about yourself for any reason whatsoever. Everyone is different.
  31. Admit when you are wrong. It’s okay to say, “I made a mistake and here is how I am going to correct it.”
  32. Dare to be different.
  33. Dress appropriately. No short skirts. No belly shirts. Clean, pressed clothes.
  34. Don’t be boy crazy girls and don’t hang out with the boy crazy girls.
  35. Look around you in class. See that geeky boy, the one who is really smart and not in with the cool kids? He will more than likely end up being the coolest, most successful of them all.

 

Note to Self That I Actually Put Under My Own Pillow This Morning:

 

  1. Identify your shortcomings but don’t let them be the end of you.
  2. Recognize your patterns and try hard not to repeat them.
  3. Accept that it’s okay to feel uncomfortable in situations.
  4. Rule your heart with the grace of a woman, not the grief of a child.
  5. Know that you can not control situations or change people—only your response to them.
  6. Mend your relationships by putting ego aside.
  7. Be deliberate, not impulsive.
  8. Listen, listen, listen.
  9. Trust your gut.
  10. Share freely.
  11. Love like you’ve never loved before.
  12. Accomplish a goal a day.
  13. Think about things from another person’s perspective.
  14. Protect your family.
  15. Read the newspaper every day.
  16. Celebrate today.
  17. Be an excellent host and the best guest.
  18. Little things go a long way.
  19. Don’t fear judgment.
  20. Always take the high road.
  21. Exercise your mind.
  22. Exercise your body.
  23. Don’t use electronics in the company of others.
  24. Pauses are ok.
  25. Be true to yourself.
  26. Be beautiful, sexy and loving.
  27. Admit when you are wrong.
  28. Remember that karma is king.
  29. Point fingers at yourself, not at others.
  30. Get rid of clutter.
  31. Do whatever you love most.
  32. Say no when it feels like too much. Also say yes when it will make someone’s day.
  33. Don’t act out of frustration. Wait.
  34. Live with your choices by not second guessing your decisions.
  35. Accept that you are personally responsible for your own life.
  36. Be dignified.
  37. Look at life from many angles.
  38. Strike up conversations with strangers. Everyone has a story.
  39. Laugh at yourself.
  40. Educate yourself.
  41. Deep breathing goes a long way.
  42. Know when to keep your mouth shut.
  43. Remember that others actions are not a direct reflection of their feelings for you.
  44. Speak up for others.
  45. Make selfless decisions.
  46. Forgive yourself and move on.
  47. Recognize when someone does not have your best interest in mind.
  48. Define yourself within yourself not by the eyes of others.
  49. Be emotionally and spiritually generous.
  50. Challenge yourself to complete tasks.
  51. Build a personal relationship with some sort of guiding higher power.
  52. Strive to make others feel accepted, loved and comfortable.

 

6 Comments

  1. Vevette says:

    Wise.

  2. Love 29 and 31 for your girls – need to use those for my little one!

    Also, 5, 8 and 24 for yourself are brilliant. We all need to be reminded.

    • Laura says:

      Hi Michelle:
      How is your book selling? I am sure it is a smashing success. You are a captivating writer. xol

  3. Susan says:

    When the hell to you become so philosophical and smart? As the mother of two boys who was quite fearful of having girls, I really appreciate this. I often wondered why I have the friends I do – the good, close ones and what separates them from the all the others. I realize now that it’s because we don’t talk about people, we talk about things and we are at least half educated. I have a list like this in a big envelope – two copies. I keep it in the trunk in the basement so when I die they’ll find it . . . love ya. – Susan